i’m not entirely comfortable speaking about this because i’m white myself, but before you pester actual poc who have to deal with this shit all the fucking time, let me clear up why what you’re experiencing is not racism, but discrimination:
because racism is an institutionalised system of oppression against poc. institutionalised being the key word here. it’s deeply embedded into every layer of our society/culture, to the point that people whom it benefits – i. e. white people like us – don’t even notice or recognize it without a lot of education (and even then, we will fuck up.)
discrimination means someone in a position of power over you abuses that power to shit on you for whatever reason. i know it sounds similar, but the difference is the point i made above: racism is ubiquituous, and so entrenched into our society so that it becomes the entire society that is working – usually not consciously, but that doesn’t matter – against poc.
i’m not saying you’re situation doesn’t suck, but it’s not because our entire society treats white people like second-rate human beings. got that? it sucks, but it’s not racism.
Saying that you cannot be racist against whites is not, in fact, racism. Stating that, however, is a baseless, ignorant, utterly privileged syllogism devoid of all empathy and sense.
Are white boys being gunned down in the street because they might’ve maybe stolen a cigar? Are white girls being shot in the face because they dared to ask a stranger for help, and then the news runs the most demeaning photo they can find of her? Are white mothers watching their boys grow up terrified that because they are white, they are vastly more likely to be shot by the police who are supposed to be protecting families?
Racism is a systematic oppression. It is not someone calling you a crackah. It is not someone saying something about white people’s hair, or music, or shit about white people liking mayonnaise. It is not even about if you are the only white kid in an all black school so you feel all picked on and sad. That’s not racism. At BEST, that’s just plain bullying and basic fucking kids being shitheads.
You know what is racism? This, and this, and this, and this, and this, and this. Have you started to see a theme? Hint: It’s not in the content. It’s in the context. Racism is some fuckhead on Faux News calling Asians “an industrious, conservative people” and no one at the station even batting an eye. Racism is rampant police brutality and Stand Your Ground laws so egregiously biased that a crazy man who went on to terrorize his girlfriend at gunpoint got away with murdering a kid barely old enough to shave, who was armed with fucking Skittles. Racism is also the fact that Zimmerman gets a free pass, continually, because jurisprudence is so embarrassed that they let it fly the first time that they have to just keep going, like a two year old babbling a lie. Racism is also the fact that whites get to shoot people if they “fear” them, and black people can’t shoot someone if they’re actively being threatened and told they are going to die.
This kind of false equivalency early kindergarden version of understanding racism is exactly what is wrong with this country right now. If you don’t see that whites get to play the game of life on easy mode - well, then that’s on you.
Are white people routinely denied housing, apartments, based on their whiteness?
Do banks routinely offer whites more expensive mortgages than they qualify for, or refuse them, based on their whiteness… and then circulate memoes calling them, IDK, snow people or something (as opposed to “mud people”)?
Are white people more likely to be denied bank accounts in general, personal and business loans specifically?
Is there a history of real estate agents refusing to sell white people homes in certain areas because white people will lower property values?
Do ppl in charge of hiring routinely skip over resumes with white-sounding names?
Do supervisors routinely give people with white-sounding names nicknames so that nonwhite (or normal) employees have a non stressful “normal” name to call them by?
Are white people routinely followed by loss prevention workers in stores because of the perception that all white people are thieves?
When a white president is elected, for the first time ever, in a country several hundred years old, do nonwhite ppl twist themselves in knots accusing him of being not a real citizen, and a terrorist, and a liar, and a thief, creating racially-themed political cartoons about him?
Are white people more likely to be pulled over by the cops when driving, or stopped and frisked while walking?
Do white parents of white kids have to start talking with their kids about racism and how to act around authority figures and police starting when their kids are toddlers?
Are white people routinely left out of history books?
Do most tv shows and movies omit white actors?
Are schools attended by white people stripped of funding or closed entirely? Do nonwhites panic at the idea of white kids attending their schools, so they pull their kids out of public schools and send them to private schools or homeschool them?
Do nonwhite people double down on claims that white people are naturally inferior and does that notion become so entrenched that it’s taught in college courses?
Do nonwhite people assume that every white person in college got there solely because of affirmative action and not because of effort and hard work and worth? Same with job promotions?
Because this is what racism is. It’s a pervasive societal ill enforced by people in a position of power. Are some POC hateful towards white people? Sure. Are they in a position of power to make the lives of every white person hell for generations? Nnnnnnope.
But most people complaining that racism toward white people exists aren’t complaining about the presence of racism toward white people. They’re complaining that prejudicial behavior toward POC is lessening and they themselves aren’t being handed as much unearned shit as they were before. They’re complaining that they’re being asked to take their feet off of other peoples’ throats and dang how DARE someone ask them to move their feet from the comfy footrests they had.